Greetings y’all I’ve been thinking a lot about bedtime here lately. I have two children as you know my daughter is four and my son is a year and a half. Bedtime is obviously something that I’ve struggled with for years now. When my daughter was a baby I wish there was a lot of things that I knew then that I know now. When she was a baby I couldn’t get her to go to sleep earlier than about 11. That’s what made me decide to write this blog post who knows who I will help I’m by no means an expert but I feel like I am a veteran of motherhood now. I feel that there are three main rules to follow when it comes to bedtime these rules are as follows;
1)go with the flow things are not always going to go the way you plan so why not just roll with the punches.
2)have a bedtime ritual! This can be as complex or as simple as you’d like.
3) be consistent. I hope these tips help.
A SUPER IMPORTANT thing I have learned about bedtime is that sometimes but time is not going to go as expected. I would love to sit here and tell you that your child will always go to bed at the same time and bedtime will always be an easy wonderful wholesome experience. But I am known for my honesty so let me give you the honest truth about bedtime with kids. If you follow a routine and do the basic same thing every night which is having a set bedtime and at least reading them a story every night or something simple like that they will go to sleep at the same time 75 to 80% of the time if not more. BUT Sometimes you will get your get your kids to sleep grab a nice book and sit down with a cup of hot tea or maybe even a glass of wine and some Netflix depending on your preference and just when you start to get really relaxed you will hear a cry or scream, perhaps if you have older children they will just run in a need something like to take a bath or they’re starving. I cannot tell you how many times my four-year-old has come in to me after bedtime and needed everything that you can think of under the sun. I don’t know what it is about kids but bedtime is a needy time anyone with children knows this and I’m sure a lot of you are reading this like oh my goodness why didn’t I think of this sooner. Well that’s kids for you LOL. I have found that the most important thing is to just keep your cool and remain firm the more that you give into your child at bedtime the more that they’re going to realize that all they have to do is keep asking you for things at bedtime and they won’t have to go to sleep. Now of course if it’s a legitimate need definitely take care of it sometimes my daughter will come in and she’s afraid so I will just simply go in her room and talk to her and maybe read her an extra story but I don’t stay in there long and I go back to bed. The number one key is to stay calm and to stay firm. I know that there’s nights when everything feels like it’s falling apart and you just are counting down the moments until bedtime. But it’s so important to remain calm I’ll be the first to admit that there have been a few nights at bedtime where my kids have been very needy and it is taking forever to put them to bed and I have wound up at my wits end and extremely frustrated sometimes even yelling. I can tell you from experience that yelling and being upset did not do anything but keep my kids up longer. Now its my main goal is when I put my kids to bed to just keep a level head on my shoulders even if I feel like the world is falling apart I put on a good show for the kids and they have no idea that I’m stressed. And besides they shouldn’t have to see how upset you are. As a parent we should find other ways to vent or frustrations but yet again that is a whole Nother blog post. My best tip of advice is just to keep in mind that it won’t last forever and that they will go to bed and that one day they’re going to go to bed on their own and you’re not going to have to do anything and you’ll probably miss bedtime. Bedtime is one of the best times to connect with kids because there aren’t as many distractions especially if you put your phone away 🙂
Another bedtime rule is to have a ritual. Now don’t get all scared on me when I say ritual I don’t mean any thing that has to be superlong are supershort. A ritual could be whatever you wanted to be however long or short you prefer. For me my bedtime ritual starts after dinner once dinner is done I work on getting the kitchen clean and yes I do hand my kids their tablets or I do put on a movie I’m not perfect. Remember the title of my blog be in perfect mom’s.com LOL but anyway so while my kids are busy I tidy up the house some and then after their movie usually something short like a 30 minute cartoon preferably Sesame Street or something like that. Once I have my tidying done which let me remind you it’s important not to spend more than about 30 minutes all this trust me you’ll get burned out. Then I give my kids a bath and after the bath we usually cuddle up and watch a Disney movie together. This is one of my funnest times of the day just to sit down and relax with the kids even though it’s hard sometimes to sit down and relax it’s really one of the most important part of your day. But that’s a whole Nother blog topic. After the movie is over I put my one and a half year-old to bed first I sing to him and hold him and then I put him in his bed with his singing puppy and I turn on his classical music box. Once he is in his bed and not crying I go to my daughters room and I talk with her for a few minutes about how her day is my daughter is for. Then I sing her a song and I tell her good night and boom bedtime is handled. I think that a routine works wonders for kids are used to not believe this. When my daughter was a baby and I only had one child I would just wing it every night and I would constantly wonder why my kid was up until 10 11 o’clock at night. But now that I am older and wiser I have realize that having a bedtime ritual for a child is the best way to have a consistent bedtime and more peace in the home. I believe that 730 is the ideal bedtime for young children. My kids wake up about seven or eight depending on what time they actually go to sleep. 730 is the goal it never happens all the time but it does happen most of the time start with with a ritual with your children today and I promise you in a few weeks it will pay off rituals are hard at first because it takes everyone some getting used to. But like I said after a few weeks of follow-through and hard work it will really pay off and then you will be doing it without even trying and you’ll probably find yourself like me when I am not home I feel weird not being able to do the ritual the same way but I just adapted just roll with the flow life is awesome you just have to go with it.
Possibly the number one rule is I have learned for bedtime is that consistency is key. I’m sure this sounds like a no-brainer but when I think back on all of the times I have one against this I realize how easy it is to do without even thinking about. We like to take our kids places like Disney grandparents parks you name it. But one of the things that I noticed that happens with these adventures is bedtime kind of gets thrown to the wind. The kids wind up staying up till all hours of the night this past Thanksgiving for example they stayed up until almost midnight. So well every night one cannot follow a bedtime routine especially one that is large. I believe that each and every night we can at least commit ourselves to having the same bedtime and the same basic routine. For my kids their bedtime is about 730 and their basic routine is me singing to them and holding them or reading them a story that’s something I really like because not only is it very rewarding but it is also something you can do anywhere how hard is it to pack a book and bring your singing pipes.
I hope that these tips help. If you try any of this advice I would love to hear from you how it worked. And also if you have any questions about bedtime feel free to drop a comment and I will respond thank you all have a blessed day.